How to resolve a family dispute over choice of school

As a parent you will always strive to do what is best for your children, but for separated parents this can sometimes lead to disagreement when what is best in one parent’s eyes does not align with the other parent’s view.
‘While education is undoubtably an important factor for a child’s development and welfare, and for their future success
and happiness, it can also be the subject of a family dispute if parents disagree over where a child should attend school,’ says Dr Diana Rose, Head of the Family department at Borneo Martell Turner Coulston.
Parents may have had different experiences of education, with each feeling that their schooling worked for them and
will be best for their child. Disagreements can arise over nursery, primary, and secondary schooling or whether your
children should be home-schooled. It is always best to try and keep communication with your former partner open and see if an agreement can be reached amicably. If you have tried this but have been unable to reach an agreement, you may be concerned as to who has the final say on schooling matters.

Parental responsibility
The first thing to check is if you both have parental responsibility. Anyone with parental responsibility for a child
will have a say on the school their child should attend. Biological mothers hold parental responsibility as do married
fathers or fathers named on their child’s birth certificate. There are other circumstances when you may have parental
responsibility, so if you are unsure about this you should seek legal advice. Steps can also be taken to obtain parental

Legal options
Our experienced family lawyers will be able to advise you on your options, including alternatives to having to go to court. Firstly, we can negotiate with your former partner or their legal representative to see if agreement can be reached. Secondly, mediation is another option to try and reach an amicable resolution. This allows both parents to air
their views and feelings on schooling. With the help of an independent mediator, parents can discuss what they both
think is best for their children in a calm environment. The final option is to apply to court and let a judge decide
what should happen. In most circumstances prior to doing this you will have to have attended a preliminary mediation

What will the court consider?
As with any dispute to do with children, the court’s paramount consideration must be the welfare of the child.
The law sets out a list of issues the court must consider. This list is known as the welfare checklist, and it covers several
aspects, including:

• the age, sex, and background of the child.
• their physical, educational, and emotional needs.
• how they feel and what they would wish to happen.
• the likely effect on them of a change in circumstances; and
• if they are at risk of suffering harm.
• When it comes to a child’s schooling it is important to look at if there are any special educational needs and, if so,
how these could best be met. A statement of needs may be beneficial or a report from the child’s social worker if they
have one.
The court will seek a CAFCASS report into the children’s wishes and feelings if they are old enough to provide them.
A child’s view will likely be considered from when they are around six or seven years old provided, they have sufficient
understanding. Often children will have a view influenced typically on where their close friends are going to school.
Their wishes and feelings are only one factor and will not always be in line with what a court decides is best for their

For further information on any family law disputes, please contact Diana Rose or Connor Williams
in the family law team on 01604 622101 or email [email protected]
This article is for general information only and does not constitute legal or professional advice. Please note that the
law may have changed since this article was published.